Brené Brown

Brené
Brown
1965

American Scholar, Author, and Public Speaker, Research Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work

Author Quotes

Who we are' is at least as important as 'what we want to achieve.

Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.

You know, and so, I've come to this belief that, if you show me a woman who can sit with a man in real vulnerability, in deep fear, and be with him in it, I will show you a woman who, A, has done her work and, B, does not derive her power from that man. And if you show me a man who can sit with a woman in deep struggle and vulnerability and not try to fix it, but just hear her and be with her and hold space for it, I'll show you a guy who's done his work and a man who doesn't derive his power from controlling and fixing everything.

Who we are matters immeasurably more than what we know or who we want to be.

Yes, if we care enough and dare enough, we will experience disappointment. But in those moments when disappointment is washing over us and we?re desperately trying to get our heads and hearts around what is or is not going to be, the death of our expectations can be painful beyond measure.

You need at least one friend who will help you move a body. No judgment. There in a second. No explanation.

Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It?s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn?t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.

Yes, softening into joy is uncomfortable. Yes, it?s scary. Yes, it?s vulnerable. But every time we allow ourselves to lean into joy and give in to those moments, we build resilience and we cultivate hope. The joy becomes part of who we are, and when bad things happen?and they do happen?we are stronger.

You share with people who've earned the right to hear your story...You have to earn the right to hear my story. It's an honor to hold space for me when I'm in shame.

Wholehearted living is not a onetime choice. It is a process. In fact, I believe it's the journey of a lifetime.

Yes, there can be no innovation, learning, or creativity without failure. But failing is painful. It fuels the shouldas and couldas, which means judgment and shame are often lying in wait.

You?ll also wonder how you can feel so brave and so afraid at the same time.

When we're looking for compassion, we need someone who is deeply rooted, is able to bend and, most of all, embraces us for our strengths and struggles.

Wholehearted living is not like trying to reach a destination. It's like walking toward a star in the sky. We never really 'arrive,' but we certainly know that we're heading in the right direction.

Yes, we all struggle with shame and the fear of not being enough.

You?re are only sick as your secrets.

When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak.

Wholeheartedness. There are many tenets of Wholeheartedness, but at its very core is vulnerability and worthiness; facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that I am enough.

Yes, we are totally exposed when we are vulnerable. Yes, we are in the torture chamber that we call uncertainty. And, yes, we?re taking a huge emotional risk when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. But there?s no equation where taking risks, braving uncertainty, and opening ourselves up to emotional exposure equals weakness.

You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.

When you get to a place where you understand that love and belonging, your worthiness, is a birthright and not something you have to earn, anything is possible.

Why, when we know that there?s no such thing as perfect, do most of us spend an incredible amount of time and energy trying to be everything to everyone? Is it that we really admire perfection? No ? the truth is that we are actually drawn to people who are real and down-to-earth. We love authenticity and we know that life is messy and imperfect.

You are halfway across a tightrope, and moving forward and going back are both just as scary.

When you lose your capacity to care what other people think, you've lost your ability to connect. But when you're defined by it, you've lost your ability to be vulnerable.

With that sense of enough comes an embrace of worthiness, boundaries, and engagement. This lay at the core of every strategy illuminated by the research participants for freeing themselves from their armor: I am enough (worthiness versus shame). I?ve had enough (boundaries versus one-uping and comparison). Showing up, taking risks, and letting myself be seen is enough (engagement versus disengagement).

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First Name
Brené
Last Name
Brown
Birth Date
1965
Bio

American Scholar, Author, and Public Speaker, Research Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work