Irvin D. Yalom

Irvin D.
Yalom
1931

American Existentialist Psychiatrist, Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, Fiction and Nonfiction Author

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Psychotherapy is a demanding vocation, and the successful therapist must be able to tolerate the isolation, anxiety, and frustration that are inevitable in the work.

Spinoza was the supreme rationalist. He saw an endless stream of causality in the world. For him there is no such entity as will or will power. Nothing happens capriciously. Everything is caused by something prior, and the more we devote ourselves to the understanding of this causative network, the more free we become... I'm sure he would have said that you are subject to passions that are driven by inadequate ideas rather than by the ideas that flow from a true quest for understanding the nature of reality... He states explicitly that a passion ceases to be a passion as soon as we form a more clear and distinct idea of it- is -that, the causative nexus underlying the passion.

The establishment of an authentic relationship with patients, by its very nature, demands that we forego the power of the triumvirate of magic, mystery, and authority.

The persistence of erotic passion of Thelma, who had eight years without any outside aid, impressed. He occupied the entire space of her life. He was right: really lived her life eight years ago. The persistence of must be part derive its power from the gradual shrinking of the rest of its existence. I doubted whether it would be possible to make her the separated without first help her enrich other areas of her life.

There's something that keeps you in-a fear, prevent you from expressing your anger. Instead, you are proud of your audacity dough. You are trying to transform things you do virtue of necessity. It buries deep in your feelings, than you liken yourself to a saint because you feel resentment. You forget the upcoming understanding the role of doctors; the role itself that's you, you look like one too good to be angry with yourself. Josef, a small revenge is a good thing. He suppressed resentment patient people!

Tombs reassured me somehow allowed me to trivialize the banality of my life.

When, at the end of their lives, most men look back they will find that they have lived throughout ad interim. They will be surprised to see that the very thing they allowed to slip by unappreciated and unenjoyed was just their life. So a man having been duped by hope, dances into the arms of death.

I must stop him from being one of those who call themselves good because they have no claws.

If I'm among men who don't agree at all with my nature, I will hardly be able to accommodate myself to them without greatly changing myself. A free man who lives among the ignorant strives as far as he can to avoid their favors. A free man acts honestly, not deceptively. Only free men are genuinely useful to one another and can form true friendships. And it's absolutely permissible, by the highest right of Nature, for everyone to employ clear reason to determine how to live in a way that will allow him to flourish.

It is easier, far easier, to obey another than to command oneself.

Love is not just a passion spark between two people; there is infinite difference between falling in love and standing in love. Rather, love is a way of being, a giving to, not a falling for; mode of relating a at large, not an act limited to a single person.

More in love with desire than with the desired!

One of the most important principles of groups is that each group is a world in miniature - whatever environment we create in the group reflects the way we choose to live. Everyone in the group creates the same kind of social environment that we have in our real life.

Reading these books. Oh, the endless labor of the intellectual-pouring all this knowledge into the brain through a three-millimeter aperture in the iris.

Spinoza: My goal is not to change Judaism. My aim extremist eliminate all religions and religious make a world where all people fully understand the nature in search of ways to achieve their salvation

The first man loves his enthusiasm, after paying his person.

The problem is me, who are safer, more comfortable with who, who are happy forever? I'll tell you the answer: Only shallow-minded ones, so ordinary people and children!

This Spake Zarathustra was a brave book which more than any other, Julius thought, teaches how to revere and celebrate life. . . . To change 'it was' into 'thus I willed it' - that alone shall I call redemption.'

Too many people are overly respectful, braying, ?You?re so brave? and Irv fell smack into that trap. After all what?s so courageous about having cancer? Once we have it, what choice do we have? But the worst thing of all?and thank God Irv doesn?t do this, at least not yet?is all this nonsensical talk about a patient?s courageous struggle with cancer that all too often ends in defeat. How many obituaries do you see stating that so-and-so lost their courageous battle with cancer? I hate that! I absolutely hate it! If someone put that in my obituary, I?d come back and kill him!

Whenever I am mistaken on the question of aftoapokalypsis is why I share too little, not too much. But whenever I have shared many things my own, patients have always benefited realizing that I too have to fight with t 'human problems, like those.

I often feel caught in a dilemma: on the one hand I wish to be more natural with you and yet, on the other hand, because I feel that you?re easily wounded and that you give my comments inordinate power, I feel I must consider my wording very, very carefully.

If it weren?t for errant passion, death, despair, and loss, the great bulk of art would never have been born.

It is noteworthy and remarkable to see how man, besides his life in the concrete, always lives a second life in the abstract ... (where) in the sphere of calm deliberation, what previously possessed him completely and moved him intensely appears to him cold , colorless, and distant: he is a mere spectator and observer.

Love is not loving person; actually intended to be the absolute owner of the person that he loved. All requests to abstraction from the whole world that valuable property. Gold is so low-spirited dragon guarding the beginning. Something the world does not love, indifference is in contrast to all other living things.

More often swallow your happiness in the very words.

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First Name
Irvin D.
Last Name
Yalom
Birth Date
1931
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American Existentialist Psychiatrist, Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, Fiction and Nonfiction Author