Irvin D. Yalom

Irvin D.
Yalom
1931

American Existentialist Psychiatrist, Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, Fiction and Nonfiction Author

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Love is not loving person; actually intended to be the absolute owner of the person that he loved. All requests to abstraction from the whole world that valuable property. Gold is so low-spirited dragon guarding the beginning. Something the world does not love, indifference is in contrast to all other living things.

More often swallow your happiness in the very words.

One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control--to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic. The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient's control over every interaction.

Religion has everything on its side: revelation, prophecies, government protection, the highest dignity and eminence... and more than this, the invaluable prerogative of being allowed to imprint its doctrines on the mind at a tender age of childhood, whereby they become almost innate ideas.

Spinoza: sacraments to the conclusion that our society does not have anything to do with the law of God, nothing to do with happiness and piety and love, and all of them continued power and influence of the rabbi

The flower replied: You fool! Do you imagine I blossom in order to be seen? I blossom for my own sake because it pleases me, and not for the sake of others. My joy consists in my being and my blossoming.

The prophets were human beings who have the luxury of bright ideas were not necessarily power reasoning very grown up.

This world is supposed to have been made ??by a God? No, much better by a devil!

Too often, we therapists neglect our personal relationships. Our work becomes Our life.

Where I am, death is not; where death is, I am not.

I think all kinds of meanings in life transcend yourself. They're linked to other generations of people around us, to our children and our family. We're passing on something of ourselves to others. I feel that's what makes our life full of meaning.

If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!

It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in life by reproducing another copy of oneself. It is wrong also to seek immortality by spewing one's germ into the future as though sperm contains your consciousness.

Love is something eternal and endless spirit of pure joy strength that is free of sorrow. That is why it is very desirable and have managed it all in their power to Search.

Most dew falls in the quiet night.

One thing he resolved was not to make that one good year a bad year by grieving that it was not more than a year.

Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life. This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and, inevitably, diminish and die.

Spinoza's followers believe salvation of all mankind. He predicted that popular religion will decline, because a growing number of people devoted themselves to the fullest understanding of the world are searching for. Spinoza was the supreme rationalists. The endless stream of cause and effect in the world to see. For him there is no such thing as free will or will power. Nothing capricious does not occur. Because every event, former event and we have dedicated more attention causal network further we will be free. This world view regular and predictable rules derived from mathematics, a world of infinite explanation was that the Goethe gave a sense of relief.

The freedom of an unscheduled afternoon brought confusion rather than joy. Julius had always been focused. When he was not seeing patients, other important projects and activities-writing, teaching, tennis, research-clamored for his attention. But today nothing seemed important. He suspected that nothing had ever been important, that his mind had arbitrarily imbued projects with importance and then cunningly covered its traces. Today he saw through the ruse of a lifetime. Today there was nothing important to do, and he ambled aimlessly down Union Street.

The search for meaning, much like the search for pleasure, must be conducted obliquely. Meaning ensues from meaningful activity: the more we deliberately pursue it, the less likely are we to find it; the rational questions one can pose about meaning will always outlast the answers. In therapy, as in life, meaningfulness is a by-product of engagement and commitment, and that is where therapists must direct their efforts ? not that engagement provides the rational answer to questions of meaning, but it causes these questions not to matter.

Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us.

Translation error is compounded by bias error. We distort others by forcing into them our preferred ideas and gestalts, a process Proust beautifully describes: We pack the physical outline of the creature we see with all the ideas we already formed about him, and in the complete picture of him which we compose in our minds, these ideas have certainly the principal place. In the end they come to fill out so completely the curve of his cheeks, to follow so exactly the line of his nose, they blend so harmoniously in the sound of his voice that these seem to be no more than a transparent envelope, so that time we see each the face or hear the voice it is our own ideas of him which we recognize and to which we listen.

Where there is life, not death and not life where there is death.

I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit.

If people in their 20s had more death awareness, would that in fact temper their ambition or drive? My hunch is yes. It would certainly do something for those who are most ruthless, who tend to make others most miserable. Some sort of greater awareness of their own finiteness and what their time on earth really is, and what they really want to do with their lives, could help improve them.

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First Name
Irvin D.
Last Name
Yalom
Birth Date
1931
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American Existentialist Psychiatrist, Professor of Psychiatry at Stanford University, Fiction and Nonfiction Author