Canadian Mythopoetic Author, Jungian Analyst
Canadian Mythopoetic Author, Jungian Analyst
Thank you, dear Sophia. From every cell in my broken body, my radiant body, I thank you. I am alive. I am free... to live... to die.
Their [those with eating disorders'] task is to rescue themselves from a drive that is destroying them. Food embodies the false values that their own bodies refuse to assimilate, by which I mean that their bodies become endemic, bloated, allergic, or resort to vomiting the poison out. The unconscious body, and certainly the conscious body, will not tolerate the negative mother.
That business of transformation, suffering happens at a cultural level as well as an individual level. I?m sure you all know individually how the suffering has brought you through to transcendence and to a whole new feeling about soul. At a cultural level a similar thing is going on. As we are losing community, if you think, for example, of the farmers ? I?m sure it?s true in the States as well as in Canada ? they cannot survive. An individual farmer has to look at the big farms coming in. And the big farms can put him out of business. The pig farm comes in and says look, you don?t want to raise ten pigs. Why don?t you just join us and have hundreds of little pigs. And when they get to be ten weeks old, there will be a truck that comes along and they will take them all along to the next person, who will have a different kind of barn, and he will raise them until they?re six months old. And then we?ll move them again. So the farmer never gets to know his pigs. The pig never sees the sunshine. We are creatures of the sun and we are being asked to eat food that never sees the sun? Chickens are in the same situation.
There?s a child that was brought up by a mother, probably father as well, where the feminine was not present. Now, I have to make clear what I mean by feminine in so far as one can make that clear. You have to experience the feminine to understand it. And I know that?s the hardest thing to say because so many people say, 'I don?t know what you?re talking about', and they don?t. And how do you ? how do you talk about something or try to live something that you have not experienced. But let me just try here.
The body is like an elaborate metaphor. One may be able to taste and not swallow, like the anorexic, or to swallow and not integrate, like the bulimic or obese.
Those living the feminine way choose to do something because it?s of genuine worth, and because they love it, and can therefore put their energy into something honestly.
The confusion of spirit and body is quite understandable in a culture where spirit is concretized in magnificent skyscrapers, where cathedrals have become museums for tourists, where woman-flesh-devil are associated, and nature is raped for any deplorable excuse... Dieting with fierce will-power is the masculine route; dieting with love of her own nature is the feminine. Her only real hope is to care for her own body and experience it as the vessel through which her Self may be born.
To love unconditionally requires no contracts, bargains or agreements.
The connection between conscious and unconscious poses particular problems in the dancer because the body is the soul of action.
To me, real power is about presence. It's the energy of knowing that you are who you are, and therefore speaking and acting from your authentic self. It doesn't matter what your work is?if you're a teacher or a nurse or whatever; it is your presence that's the power. It's not power over anybody else. It's just the expression of who you are.
The creative process shrivels in the absence of continual dialogue with the soul. And creativity is what makes life worth living.
Unable to do anything for a month after the ordeal. No more cancer. No more radiation. My doctor pronounced me clear on March 29. Felt the crucifixion this year, and the tomb, and Easter Sunday. Still not sure who has emerged.
The feminine principle attempts to relate. Instead of breaking things off into parts, it says, ?Where are we alike? How can we connect? Where is the love? Can you listen to me? Can you really hear what I am saying? Can you see me? Do you care whether you see me or not??
What meaning does it have if nobody has ever seen you? I tell you the number of people who sit in my office sobbing ? men and women ? saying nobody ever saw me. Nobody ever had time to listen to me. So I am unlovable - the saddest word in the language. I am ? don?t touch me. Sometimes I?ve had a real flood of feeling about somebody, and I think they have had one for me. And I put out my hand and they say, 'Don?t touch me. I?m unlovable.' And they mean it. There is a trauma someplace.
The feminine takes time for spontaneity and slow time, honors inner reality, and gives values to feelings without brutally repressing them as sissy or meaningless.
When I say the feminine, I don't mean gender. I mean the feminine principle that is living?or suppressed?in both men and women. The feminine principle attempts to relate. Instead of breaking things off into parts, it says, Where are we alike? How can we connect? Where is the love? Can you listen to me? Can you really hear what I am saying? Can you see me? Do you care whether you see me or not?
The great work of our time is to bring the feminine into this culture. And it's not an easy path. How does each one of us contribute? Believe it or not, it's done in the most personal ways. Take time to listen to your dreams, to write them down. Take time to recognize that there are things going on within you that need to be felt, or said, or lived, or grieved. Pay attention to these things both in yourself and in the people in your life. Pay attention to the authentic self.
Without an understanding of myth or religion, without an understanding of the relationship between destruction and creation, death and rebirth, the individual suffers the mysteries of life as meaningless mayhem alone.
The healing of ourselves as healers has to take place first. Bringing ourselves to wholeness, we become more sensitive to other people. In the change of consciousness that happens within us, we bring about change of consciousness in those around us and in the planet itself.
The individuality is being lost, and a whole process is going on where the suffering that this is causing at every level in our society is only just beginning to be felt. You take the community away from the farm. You say yes, we?ll put a highway through this part of the city. We?ll get good money for that. And you kill that part of the city. How far can you go with this loss of relatedness, loss of love, loss of recognition that we are human beings, individuals, who live our lives with an open heart, only to be clobbered by insensitivity? People saying I?m right and you?re wrong. No recognition of soul or heart. So it seems to me that as we talk this morning, if you can just sort of hold that position. I?m trying not to be too dark about it. But I am really alarmed.
The longing for sweets is really a yearning for love or ?sweetness.?
Power in the sense of controlling somebody else is different from personal presence. That kind of power?patriarchal power?does not value other people. What I strive for instead is empowerment.
The more you work with your dreams and your unconscious, and honor it, the more you understand it and it understands you. When you develop a relationship with your psyche this way, you begin to carry that energy into life and your relationships.
Rage and bitterness do not foster femininity. They harden the heart and make the body sick.
The mystery of God touches us -- or does not -- in the smallest details: giving a strawberry, with love; receiving a touch, with love; sharing the snapdragon red of an autumn sunset, with love.