American Sociologist, Life Coach, Author and Speaker
Martha Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck
American Sociologist, Life Coach, Author and Speaker
You'll never be hurt as much by being open as you have been remaining closed.
If you?re doing something you love with people you love in a place you love, you are going to create something of value to the world.
In the pursuit of knowledge, every day something is added. In the practice of the Way, every day something is dropped. Less and less do you need to force things, until finally you arrive at non-action. When nothing is done, nothing is left undone.
Just one mental shift-focusing on the abundance of your environment-switches your psychological settings so that your life automatically improves in many areas you may think are unrelated. This is essentially a leap from fear to faith.
Most of my clients don't realize that the way they look and the way they think about their looks are two separate issues.
Nothing I do to describe these experiences can possibly convey the emotions that went with them. If there were a drug that could reproduce the same effect, I would be on that drug right now, and damn the side effects. Imagine a blend of all your favorite things: ice cream, sex, white sandy beaches, Beethoven?s symphonies, all those happy times with your Garden-Weasel, the whole nine yards. Picture these experiences combined, boiled down into their most concentrated elements of pure joy, then multiplied by trillions and injected into every one of your cells. That might begin to help you imagine what I felt when the sense of Something Bigger emerged in the hurricane?s eye of my life, surrounded by events that were otherwise completely devastating. The peace and joy were so dazzling, so potent, that I thought they would never fade.
Refusing to feel desire is the only thing more painful than failing to get what you want, and that learning not to yearn, far from preventing disappointment, ultimately guarantees it.
Ten bajillion product ads notwithstanding, your looks are another thing that's basically genetic.
The only way to the Place beyond Fear is to do the thing you fear most. This is how to surrender to your best destiny.
There are things that can only happen through you when you are still. Silence is often the most important work you can do.
To know what that true self is without social pressure is to know your true nature.
We virtually never feel our age, but thinking that we should can lead to disaster.
Whenever you go somewhere that speaks to your soul, you are going home to yourself.
Your body is free but your heart is in prison. To release your heart, you simply reverse the process which locked it up. First you begin to listen for messages from your heart-messages you may have been ignoring since childhood. Next you must take the daring, risky step of expressing your heart in the outside world... As you learn to live by heart, every choice you make will become another way of telling your story... It is the way you were meant to exist. If you stop to listen, you'll realize that your heart has been telling you so all along.
If you'd rather live surrounded by pristine objects than by the traces of happy memories, stay focused on tangible things. Otherwise, stop fixating on stuff you can touch and start caring about stuff that touches you.
Instead of fretting about getting everything done, why not simply accept that being alive means having things to do? Then drop into full engagement with whatever you're doing, and let the worry go.
Laughter is the highest form of prayer.
Most of our stress and suffering come not from events, but from our thoughts. Reframe from negative thoughts, and stress subsides.
Occasionally, especially at celebratory times, the whole gang of us would launch into a spontaneous mental game. For example, my mother used to send me to the back porch (a room containing no furniture but a simply incredible mass of Stuff) to get flour for holiday cakes or pies. I often returned to the kitchen, cringing with disgust, to announce that the flour was full of worms. No matter how sick this made me, I knew it wuoldn't bother my mother. She always just sifted the worms out, saying that even if she missed a few and they got into the food, they would simply be an excellent source of protein. Just as we were all beginning to feel thoroughly downtrodden, my father would save the day. Everyone come up with a literary reference about worms! he would shout.
Relinquishing the delusional hope that we can or must be flawless?allows us to seek happiness in the only place it can be found: our real, messy, imperfect experience.
The average adult laughs 15 times a day; the average child, more than 400 times.
The part of you that is unhampered by illusion-the illusion of time, the illusion of powerlessness, the illusion of impossibility-i s waiting for you to slow down and open up so that it can speak to your consciousness. In some unguarded moment, you will hear its wildly improbable words and know that they are guiding you home.
There has never been, and never will be, anyone who sees, thinks, or responds exactly the way you do. Whether you?re revolutionizing physics or making a quilt, you must display your differences to make a difference.
To live a life that is wrong for you is a form of dying. There are people who have lives that look perfect. They try to be happy, they believe they should be happy, they are trying to like it, but if it's off course from their north star, they aren't satisfied.
Welcoming imperfection is the way to accomplish what perfectionism promises but never delivers. It gives us our best performance and genuine acceptance in the family of human -- and by that I mean imperfect -- beings.