Martha Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck

Martha
Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck
1962

American Sociologist, Life Coach, Author and Speaker

Author Quotes

This is it, I thought. This is the part of us that makes our brief, improbable little lives worth living: the ability to reach through our own isolation and find strength, and comfort, and warmth for and in each other. This is what human beings do. This is what we live for, the way horses live to run.

Trying to motivate yourself with fear is like screaming at a child, Do something, dammit! You?ll either freeze up or act in counterproductive ways. Fear widens the knowing-doing gap. Don?t use it.

What? Diana shakes her head in miserable confusion. I don?t

You can't stay well without telling--and living--the truth.

You're exactly where you're meant to be, meandering along a crooked path.

If you ask people (as I often do) how they make decisions, 'lucky' people will talk about tuning in to information and instincts, while 'unlucky' people often mention pushing away the uncomfortable feeling they were headed for trouble.

I'm irreparably damaged by my past. Painful events leave scars, true, but it turns out they're largely erasable. Jill Bolte Taylor, the neuroanatomist who had a stroke that obliterated her memory, described the event as losing "37 years of emotional baggage." Taylor rebuilt her own brain, minus the drama. Now it appears we can all effect a similar shift, without having to endure a brain hemorrhage. The very thing you're doing at this moment?questioning habitual thoughts?is enough to begin off-loading old patterns. For example, take an issue that's been worrying you ("I've got to work harder!") and think of three reasons that belief may be wrong. Your brain will begin to let it go. Taylor found this thought-loss euphoric. You will, too.

It reminds me that we are born innocent but ignorant, and that to remedy the second of these conditions we inevitably surrender the first.

Make a plan to change the world. For one night, don't disbelieve that you can.

My point is that perceptual bias can affect nut jobs and scientists alike. If we hold too rigidly to what we think we know, we ignore or avoid evidence of anything that might change our mind.

People don?t cry when they lose their hope. They cry when they get it back.

Solitude, Persons, Mines save quote report

The important thing is to tell yourself a life story in which you, the hero, are primarily a problem solver rather than a helpless victim. This is well within your power, whatever fate might have dealt you.

The really potent part of love is that it allows you to carry around beliefs about yourself that make you feel special, desirable, precious, innately good. Your lover couldn't have seen [these qualities] in you, even temporarily, if they weren't part of your essential being.

This is the part of us that makes our brief, improbable little lives worth living: the ability to reach through our own isolation and find strength, and comfort, and warmth for and in each other. This is what human beings do. This is what we live for, the way horses live to run.

Use anything you can think of to understand and be understood, and you'll discover the creativity that connects you with others.

When fear makes your choices for you, no security measures on earth will keep the things you dread from finding you. But if you can avoid avoidance - if you can choose to embrace experiences out of passion, enthusiasm, and a readiness to feel whatever arises - then nothing, nothing in all this dangerous world, can keep you from being safe.

You do not owe anyone your time. When you realize that, others will respect your time much more.

If you begin to face your fears, something bittersweet is going to happen to you: You'll grow up.

I'm not saying we have power over everything in our lives - if that were true, my hair would look so, so different - but I am saying that there's no circumstance in which we are completely powerless.

It seems to me at this moment that laughing is a serious thing, that it connects us with truth and love and God.

Make stuff up. Anyone who ever did something new or interesting was making it up as they went along.

My real feeling, the one I couldn't articulate yet, was that my entire life hinged on knowing that there were people who would continue to love me unconditionally, even if I were damaged, even if I were sick. Such love was the only thing that had sustained me during the turmoil of the past months. If I eliminated my child because of his disability, if I put him out of my life, I would be violating the only thing that was keeping me alive.

People who get what they want tend to be the ones who make the effort to KNOW what they want

Sometimes a psychic tells you something and it feels wrong and others may be right on the money. It's your choice about whom to trust, and giving that trust is something we do ourselves.

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First Name
Martha
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Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck
Birth Date
1962
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American Sociologist, Life Coach, Author and Speaker