Martha Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck

Martha
Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck
1962

American Sociologist, Life Coach, Author and Speaker

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No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from life's slings and arrows, and when death comes, we meet it alone.

Problems are bad. You spent your school years solving arbitrary problems imposed by boring authority figures. You learned that problems?comment se dit??suck. But people without real problems go mad and invent things like base jumping and wedding planning. Real problems are wonderful, each carrying the seeds of its own solution. Job burnout? It's steering you toward your perfect career. An awful relationship? It's teaching you what love means. Confusing tax forms? They're suggesting you hire an accountant, so you can focus on more interesting tasks, such as flossing. Finding the solution to each problem is what gives life its gusto.

Stop trying to change your behavior; instead, rethink your beliefs.

The more you claim your own destiny, the easier it will be to love unconditionally.

The way that other people judge me is none of my business.

To be really productive, it's as important to rest when we're tired as it is to work when we're inspired.

We divide the roles of mystic, doctor, therapist, artist, herbalist, naturalist, and storyteller into separate, often inimical professions. In most other societies, there was one word, one job assignment, for somebody who was all these things at once.

When you meet people, show real appreciation, then genuine curiosity.

You will never realize your best destiny through the avoidance of fear. Rather, you will realize it through the exercise of courage, which means taking whatever action is most liberating to the soul, even when you are afraid.

If you think there is no action that you can perform in your current circumstances that will increase the supply of love in the world, you are believing a lie. At the very least, you always have the option to offer yourself kindness and understanding. That alone can increase the supply of love in the world.

In one century, we've added 28 years to our average life span - a change so rapid that our brains couldn't possibly have evolved to accommodate it.

Judgments that constrain your giving are the very demons that are keeping you from receiving.

Memory?is not the mechanical recording device people often think it is. Memory is anything but constant, anything but indubitable. It shifts and fades, blooms and dies, steps out for a cigarette and blows tendrils of information and emotion back under the door.

No part of your experience is wasted. Everything you've experienced so far is part of what you were meant to learn.

Question every thought that causes suffering and test it against your own sense of truth.

Success is the opposite of failure. Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure.

The only map of your right life is written on your soul at its most peaceful, and the only sure compass is your heart at its most open.

The way to find your own North Star is not to think or feel your way forward but to dissolve the thoughts and feeling that make you miserable. You don't have to learn your destiny--you already know it; you just have to unlearn the thoughts that blind you to what you know.

To care for someone can mean to adore them, feed them, tend their wounds. But care can also signify sorrow, as in 'bowed down by cares.' Or anxiety, as in 'Careful!' Or investment in an outcome, as in 'Who cares?' The word love has no such range of meaning: It's pure acceptance.

We evolved to move and to learn with all our five senses!

When you're weary, find relief. When you're strong, find delight.

You'll never be hurt as much by being open as you have been remaining closed.

If you want to end your isolation, you must be honest about what you want at a core level and decide to go after it.

In the moments I get it right, every step I take seems to be matched by a universal mystery, which obligingly, incredibly, creates what I can't.

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First Name
Martha
Last Name
Beck, fully Martha Nibley Beck
Birth Date
1962
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American Sociologist, Life Coach, Author and Speaker