American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
Shannon L. Alder
American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
When you can?t reach the standards of another?s heart you must ask yourself, What value do I put on my soul that I would subject myself to such rejection?
When you loved someone and had to let them go, there will always be that small part of yourself that whispers, What was it that you wanted and why didn't you fight for it?
Where loved ones failed you, guardian angels stand ready to catch your fall.
Worry is like a roller coaster ride that you think will take you somewhere, but it never does.
You can rationalize anything, but that is not total honesty, only your version of it based on your upbringing and experiences outside of everyone else's reality.
You don't walk away to prove your worth. You walk away because you allowed someone else to dictate your value and you found yourself believing it.
You will never develop courage if you don?t stand in the middle of the battle afraid and pick up the sword anyways, to defend what is right. You might feel like you are outnumbered, but heroes always are.
Your lack of commitment to being different is what kills you. It is the insanity of doing the same thing every time and expecting a different result that wastes your time.
When you choose to forgive the same people over and over again you do so because you don't want to believe your time loving them was wasted. Bad relationships over time can become investments, that are hard to let go of. The key to freedom is to realize that love is never wasted. The only thing wasted in life is the time you spend focusing on an unhappy situation that will never change to fit your needs, and not realizing the true investment of time and love are the lessons God wanted you to learn.
When you lower the definition of success to such a level that any person can reach it, you don?t teach people to have big dreams; instead you inspirit mediocrity and nurture people?s inadequacies.
Where you hang your feelings is where you hang your focus.
Writing is the only way to run away from home, without ever leaving.
You can?t control other people?s actions, but you can control who thinks they have control over you.
You have to have more than hope to get what you want in life.
You will never find the real truth among people that are insecure or have egos to protect. Truth over time becomes either guarded or twisted as their perspective changes. it changes with the seasons of their shame, love, hope or pride.
Your love life is insignificant when it comes to raising your children to be respectable human beings. The moment you see them suffer or lower their standards because of your selfishness, is the day you should realize that nothing matters more than them. You are not just the queen or king of your fairy tale. The real story of your life is the gift of time God gave you with them.
When you don?t have honesty in love then there is no communication. Honesty is improvisation of the heart; anything less is a well thought out and rehearsed script.
When you meet a dark angel don't you ever for one minute believe they are bad because they have faced the worst demons and lived to guide you through yours. It really isn't an easy job they have been asked to do, but then neither was standing on the front line during the war in heaven.
Which is more real, when you face reality, or when reality faces you?
Writing isn?t necessarily a gift it is a passion. You can write a one page masterpiece to 99 pages of crap. What keeps you coming back is that Zen moment when you enlightened your own self with a few cleverly arranged words and saved yourself a $200 trip to the shrink, by simply buying a #2 pencil.
You can?t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.
You have two choices in life when it comes to truthful observations by others that anger you: You can be ashamed and cover it up by letting your pride take you in the extreme opposite direction, in order to make the point that they are wrong. Or, you can break down the walls of pride by accepting vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness. As you walk through your vulnerability, you will meet humility on the way to courage. From here, courage allows us to let go of shame and rise higher into the person we are meant to be, not the person that needs to be right. This is the road to confidence and self worth.
You will never get to your destination on time if choose to walk two paths through life.
Your most important want should be the one you can control!
When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stand in front of you when other?s cast stones, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who will hold your hand when you?re sick, who thinks you?re pretty without makeup, the one who turns to his friends and say, ?that?s her?, the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live, who kisses you when you screw up, watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleep?..you marry him all over again.