American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
Shannon L. Alder
American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
The most important quality in the man you decide to marry should be the ability to make you laugh. Beauty fades, careers end, money comes and goes, religions change, children grow up and move away, spouses get sick, struggles happen, family members die, senility sets in when your older, but the ability to make you giggle every day is the most precious gift God can give you to get through all of it.
The only person worth risking everything for is the one person that would never let you risk everything for.
The problem with people that ignore people they dislike is they can?t ignore them. Anger carries a person in your mind forever, whether you choose to speak to them or not. Therefore, don?t mistake prosperity or accomplishments as resolution. You can?t escape what you will not deal with. The day you can stand in the room with someone and not be affected is the day you truly moved on.
The victory is not to change the mind of the critic; it is to evaluate what you can learn and discard, yet still walk away with peace in your heart.
There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.
They say faith is taking the first step when you can?t see the whole staircase. Actually, wisdom is seeing the elevator behind it that would have taken you to the top floor.
Top 10 Deathbed Regrets: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life other people expected of me. 2. I wish I took time to be with my children more when they were growing up. 3. I wish I had the courage to express my feelings, without the fear of being rejected or unpopular. 4. I wish I would have stayed in touch with friends and family. 5. I wish I would have forgiven someone when I had the chance. 6. I wish I would have told the people I loved the most how important they are to me. 7. I wish I would have had more confidence and tried more things, instead of being afraid of looking like a fool. 8. I wish I would have done more to make an impact in this world. 9. I wish I would have experienced more, instead of settling for a boring life filled with routine, mediocrity and apathy. 10. I wish I would have pursued my talents and gifts.
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, but I chose neither one. Instead, I set sail in my little boat to watch a sunset from a different view that couldn't be seen from shore. Then I climbed the tallest mountain peak to watch the amber sun through the clouds. Finally, I traveled to the darkest part of the valley to see the last glimmering rays of light through the misty fog. It was every perspective I experienced on my journey that left the leaves trodden black, and that has made all the difference.
What good is intuition if your heart gets in the way of hearing it?
When God has a mission for you to complete he will give you the intelligence, talents and resources to complete the job. He will also give you an army of people to protect you.
It is not what you don?t know that hurts you; it is what you do know, which is not the truth that does your spirit the most harm.
L I V E or E V I L -- to Live life is to spell forward. To not live life is to spell backwards.
Live is not about constantly fighting to keep someone in your life. It is about constantly fighting for a better life together.
Mental illness is not a fraternity or a social club for like minds. It is its own religion to each person that has it. Their mind is their pastor, their feelings are their scriptures and their delusions are their own bible story. To break them free, is to break their faith in signs. That is why so many feel lost.
Never be a slave of loyalty to unloyal people.
Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn?t see your worth at the moment you met then he won?t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.
Often a woman that doesn?t have any business being in a fight is there because their ego thinks it can mend what other people can?t. It?s either superiority or a second chance to heal a wound they have, by meddling on your battlefield.
Outward beauty is the frame for the masterpiece of your soul.
People with anxiety and trust issues find themselves drawn to people of consistency because they feel safe with someone who is predictable. However, that doesn?t cure their problem. The anxious person still remains the same because anxiety is a wave that crashes on the shore every time an unpredictable circumstance challenges their expectations and comfort zone.
Religion asks followers to believe in things nobody can see, however, animal activists ask people to see things they can prove. When Christian animal and environmental activists finally demand that their church be better stewards over the world, we will see change. Until then, one percent of sermons will teach parishioners about the importance of being stewards over our animals in a year. Mega churches and corporate religious empires will continue to own stock in companies that pollute our earth and exploit our animals. Ignorance and hypocrisy will continue to corrupt the pureness of the Gospel. From here, we will not be truly saved because we choose not to save ourselves.
Silence is best reserved for the fearful and foolish.
Sometimes losses in life are not losses at all. They are simply the evidence God provides, in order to build a story so profound, that it will cause social change.
Sometimes, the only thing that stands in your way from moving on completely is one question. Sadly, it is the one question God asked another person to answer for you. Be the solution, not the problem.
The Anatomy of Conflict: If there is no communication then there is no respect. If there is no respect then there is no caring. If there is no caring then there is no understanding. If there is no understanding then there is no compassion. If there is no compassion then there is no empathy. If there is no empathy then there is no forgiveness. If there is no forgiveness then there is no kindness. If there is no kindness then there is no honesty. If there is no honesty then there is no love. If there is no love then God doesn't reside there. If God doesn't reside there then there is no peace. If there is no peace then there is no happiness. If there is no happiness ----then there IS CONFLICT BECAUSE THERE IS NO COMMUNICATION!
The earth is hiring and the pay is your legacy.