Susan Jeffers


American Psychologist, Author of Self-Help Literature and Public Speaker on Fear and Healing Relationships

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Just open the newspaper and you'll see terrible things happening all over the world, like disease, violence or natural disasters. There's so much struggle. I'd like to discuss the difference in the way people handle what happens. Some people handle crisis with a sense of serenity, but most of us battle. People who handle crisis with serenity have mastered the art of dancing with life. Dancing with life is about moving into the flow of all our experiences, good or bad, with the feeling of gratitude, harmony and love. You might say, "I have trouble flowing with the good, how am I going to flow with the bad?" Well, that's really what ending the struggle and dancing with life is all about.

Success is... living a full and balanced life in partnership with others to create a joyful feeling of love, contribution, appreciation and abundance, despite how our endeavors may turn out.

While none of us understands the Grand Design, we can commit to using all our experiences, good or bad, as the building blocks of a powerful and loving life. Then it is, indeed, all happening perfectly.

Listen to the silence... it has much to say.

Take a risk a day - one small or bold stroke that will make you feel great once you have done it.

With a positive attitude, value can be created from anything that happens in life.

My favorite quote in my book is from the Torah which states, "In a world to come, we will be called to account for all the beautiful things that God put on this earth which we refused to enjoy." When I read it I realized that there was so much I'd been given that I had not appreciated. Then I thought, I have just been given permission to enjoy.

The Five Truths About Fear: FEAR TRUTH #1 The fear will never go away as long as you continue to grow! Every time you take a step into the unknown, you experience fear. There is no point in saying, "When I am no longer afraid, then I will do it." You'll be waiting for a long time. The fear is part of the package. FEAR TRUTH #2 The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and?do it! When you do it often enough, you will no longer be afraid in that particular situation. You will have faced the unknown and you will have handled it. Then new challenges await you, which certainly add to the excitement in living. FEAR TRUTH #3 The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and?do it! With each little step you take into unknown territory, a pattern of strength develops. You begin feeling stronger and stronger and stronger. FEAR TRUTH #4 Not only are you afraid when facing the unknown, so is everyone else! This should be a relief. You are not the only one out there feeling fear. Everyone feels fear when taking a step into the unknown. Yes, all those people who have succeeded in doing what they have wanted to do in life have felt the fear - and did it anyway. So can you! FEAR TRUTH #5 Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the bigger underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness! This is the one truth that some people have difficulty understanding. When you push through the fear, you will feel such a sense of relief as your feeling of helplessness subsides. You will wonder why you did not take action sooner. You will become more and more aware that you can truly handle anything that life hands you.

Your inner peace has nothing to do with your dramas of your life.

No matter what response you get from anyone you meet, you are a worthwhile person.

The less you need someone's approval, the more you are able to love them.

Your joy, your happiness, your satisfaction and your ability to dance with life, depend solely on what you pay attention to.

One of the ways to liberate ourselves is to make the ordinary in our life extraordinary. My father lived with the idea that life is a mass of boredom, interjected with a few exquisite moments. I believed him for years, then one day I realized how wrong he was, waiting for those grand splashes of brilliance. Why wait? Why don't we harvest our rewards every day of our lives?

The source of our love comes from within. No one out there is that source. It makes sense to go to the source.

One step at a time is enough for me. Impatience is simply a way of beating yourself up.

The way you use words has a tremendous impact on the quality of your life. For example, instead of saying: I should/ I could, it is a problem/ it is an opportunity and, if only/ next time.

Open your eyes, whether you presently believe it or not, your life is already abundant. Before you can accept abundance in your life, you have to notice it.

Too many of us seem to be searching for something 'out there' to make our lives complete. What we are all really searching for is the divine essence that lives within.

Our goal is to enjoy, not to achieve perfection.

Unless you use the muscles that lifts you to your higher self, it will weaken- just as your body weakens when it is not used.

Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the fear which comes from the feeling of helplessness.

We can?t control our world but we can control our reactions to it.

Put signs in your home and office that says IT REALLY DOESN?T MATTER to remind yourself when you are being needlessly obsessive. Also put signs in your home and office that says SO WHAT! I WILL HANDLE IT!

We don't have to wait until we are old to gather the riches...

Rejection never feels good, but it certainly hurts less when we are not needing something from the person who is rejecting us.

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American Psychologist, Author of Self-Help Literature and Public Speaker on Fear and Healing Relationships