American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
Shannon L. Alder
American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
Which is more real, when you face reality, or when reality faces you?
Writing isn?t necessarily a gift it is a passion. You can write a one page masterpiece to 99 pages of crap. What keeps you coming back is that Zen moment when you enlightened your own self with a few cleverly arranged words and saved yourself a $200 trip to the shrink, by simply buying a #2 pencil.
You can?t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.
You have two choices in life when it comes to truthful observations by others that anger you: You can be ashamed and cover it up by letting your pride take you in the extreme opposite direction, in order to make the point that they are wrong. Or, you can break down the walls of pride by accepting vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness. As you walk through your vulnerability, you will meet humility on the way to courage. From here, courage allows us to let go of shame and rise higher into the person we are meant to be, not the person that needs to be right. This is the road to confidence and self worth.
You will never get to your destination on time if choose to walk two paths through life.
Your most important want should be the one you can control!
When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stand in front of you when other?s cast stones, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who will hold your hand when you?re sick, who thinks you?re pretty without makeup, the one who turns to his friends and say, ?that?s her?, the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live, who kisses you when you screw up, watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleep?..you marry him all over again.
When you only know your faults and failures, you allow yourself and others to downgrade your dreams and belittle your wants.
While you were busy trying to prove God stands behind you, God was before me lighting the trail, so he could lead us both.
Writing romantic fiction is the second chance that loved ones denied us.
You cannot become a peacemaker without communication. Silence is a passive aggressive grenade thrown by insecure people that want war, but they don't want the accountability of starting it.
You knew...and that is why it hurts so bad.
You will never know the moon or stars, unless you breathe in their solar system and inspect it from many diverse vantage points as possible.
Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.
When things don?t add up, either you don?t have a calculator or you forgot to use commonsense by simply asking.
When you forget yesterday and embrace the new vision of what you are to become through the eyes of your best friend, you have found a new sister standing by the open door that was once closed in your heart.
When you really want something, you will give up a million times, but your heart keeps taking you back to the starting line.
Who gets to be the judge of reality? If it was deeply felt, believed, spoken about often or altered your life course, then it was real enough. Faith doesn't get the luxury of all those things one hundred percent of the time, but we call that normal behavior based on a gut feeling. I said. I looked at his wife and she busted out laughing. Her husband was trying to catch invisible butterflies above his head?dementia. My patients teach me the most sobering of truths: Why wreck his smile. If I could see them, I would want to catch them too.
You are going to do some really stupid and mean things in the name of love. Don?t be so hard on yourself when things don?t turn out. You are a good person that loved deeply. Anybody worth having will know that hurting someone is not showing someone who you really are. You?re a sensitive person that showed the depth of your love, by the depth of your pain. Fairytale love will show you only one face. Real love will show you as many faces as it takes to get you to see how much that person really wanted you in their life.
You can't be creative without criticism. If your life is without critics then maybe you are painting your life's masterpiece with only a broken brown crayon.
You know there is something wrong when your religion tells you to stay home and watch the kids and all you want to do is rescue people in the forest. Listen to God. Go find the people lost in the forest. Your religion should not dictate the life mission of a woman?s heart. Hire a babysitter then go do what God has been telling to you to do. It?s really that simple.
You will never see things as they are; you will only see things as you are.
Your religion is not what you do on Sunday. It is how you live Monday through Saturday.
When we want to see someone in a certain way, we find a way, but when we don't we have to wake up and see who they truly are and not what our pain or anger chooses to believe.
When you forgive those that hurt you, they no longer have control over your future happiness. Their anger keeps them a prisoner to your past, while you enjoy the present.