American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
Shannon L. Alder
American Author, Works with Hospice Patients
Where you hang your feelings is where you hang your focus.
Writing is the only way to run away from home, without ever leaving.
You can?t control other people?s actions, but you can control who thinks they have control over you.
You have to have more than hope to get what you want in life.
You will never find the real truth among people that are insecure or have egos to protect. Truth over time becomes either guarded or twisted as their perspective changes. it changes with the seasons of their shame, love, hope or pride.
Your love life is insignificant when it comes to raising your children to be respectable human beings. The moment you see them suffer or lower their standards because of your selfishness, is the day you should realize that nothing matters more than them. You are not just the queen or king of your fairy tale. The real story of your life is the gift of time God gave you with them.
When you don?t have honesty in love then there is no communication. Honesty is improvisation of the heart; anything less is a well thought out and rehearsed script.
When you meet a dark angel don't you ever for one minute believe they are bad because they have faced the worst demons and lived to guide you through yours. It really isn't an easy job they have been asked to do, but then neither was standing on the front line during the war in heaven.
Which is more real, when you face reality, or when reality faces you?
Writing isn?t necessarily a gift it is a passion. You can write a one page masterpiece to 99 pages of crap. What keeps you coming back is that Zen moment when you enlightened your own self with a few cleverly arranged words and saved yourself a $200 trip to the shrink, by simply buying a #2 pencil.
You can?t selectively numb your anger, any more than you can turn off all lights in a room, and still expect to see the light.
You have two choices in life when it comes to truthful observations by others that anger you: You can be ashamed and cover it up by letting your pride take you in the extreme opposite direction, in order to make the point that they are wrong. Or, you can break down the walls of pride by accepting vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness. As you walk through your vulnerability, you will meet humility on the way to courage. From here, courage allows us to let go of shame and rise higher into the person we are meant to be, not the person that needs to be right. This is the road to confidence and self worth.
You will never get to your destination on time if choose to walk two paths through life.
Your most important want should be the one you can control!
When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will stand in front of you when other?s cast stones, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who will hold your hand when you?re sick, who thinks you?re pretty without makeup, the one who turns to his friends and say, ?that?s her?, the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live, who kisses you when you screw up, watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleep?..you marry him all over again.
When you only know your faults and failures, you allow yourself and others to downgrade your dreams and belittle your wants.
While you were busy trying to prove God stands behind you, God was before me lighting the trail, so he could lead us both.
Writing romantic fiction is the second chance that loved ones denied us.
You cannot become a peacemaker without communication. Silence is a passive aggressive grenade thrown by insecure people that want war, but they don't want the accountability of starting it.
You knew...and that is why it hurts so bad.
You will never know the moon or stars, unless you breathe in their solar system and inspect it from many diverse vantage points as possible.
Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.
When things don?t add up, either you don?t have a calculator or you forgot to use commonsense by simply asking.
When you forget yesterday and embrace the new vision of what you are to become through the eyes of your best friend, you have found a new sister standing by the open door that was once closed in your heart.
When you really want something, you will give up a million times, but your heart keeps taking you back to the starting line.