This site is dedicated to the memory of Dr. Alan William Smolowe who gave birth to the creation of this database.
Joy has its friends, but grief its loneliness.
Character | Grief | Joy | Loneliness |
Michel de Montaigne, fully Lord Michel Eyquem de Montaigne
I do myself a greater injury in lying than I do him of whom I tell a lie.
Lord Samuel, Herbert Louis Samuel, First Viscount Samuel
Without doubt the greatest injury of all was done by basing morals on myth. For, sooner or later, myth is recognized for what it is, and disappears. Then morality loses the foundation on which it has been built.
Christian Friedrich D. Schubert
No one really understands the grief or joy of another.
Grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal. To work through and complete grief means to face our feelings openly and honestly, to express and release our feelings fully and to tolerate and accept our feeling for however long it takes for the wound to heal. We fear that once acknowledged grief will bowl us over. The truth is that grief experienced does dissolve. Grief unexpressed is grief that lasts indefinitely.
Attention | Character | Fear | Feelings | Grief | Means | Order | Truth | Will | Work |
Bereavement is a wound. It's like being very, very badly hurt... You will grieve and that is painful. And your grief will have many stages, but all of them will be healing. Little by little, you will be whole again. And you will be a stronger person. Just as a broken bone knits and becomes stronger than before, so will you.
Bereavement | Grief | Little | Will | Wisdom |
The home of everyone is to him his castle and fortress, as well for his defense against injury and violence, as for his repose.
All the wonderful things in life are so simple that one is not aware of their wonder until they are beyond touch. Never have I felt the wonder and beauty and joy of life so keenly as now in my grief that Johnny is not here to enjoy them.
Beauty | Grief | Joy | Life | Life | Wisdom | Wonder | Beauty |